“French fries, nuggets, pizza and the like will save your holiday” said the writer. She added “all a young child wants is some fried, fast food or at the very least, a bowl of mac and cheese”
Parents, do you agree with that statement?
Some trips were taken around the United States and some as far as Singapore, Malaysia, Australia, Italy and many more. Most flights were long and some were over 24 hour periods with long layovers. We find it a joy to see the world with them. They are a blessing and delight to our lives…never once seen as inconvenient or ‘more destructive than custom agents and harder to please’ (quoting the caption on a picture in the article).
The truth of the matter is, traveling with kids is not always easy…who says parenting is easy. But we love them and like having them with us while we see the world. Some questions came to mind after reading the article:
Are children’s staple food consisting of only French fries, nuggets and mac and cheese? The so-called convenient fast food?
What’s happening to parenting? Who is in control of a situation? Why does junior need a variety and five suitcases for a vacation?
Here is my take on dining while traveling with kids (and parenting):
1. You respect other people’s cultures. You eat whatever is served unless it is dirty and/ or from animal’s parts you can’t handle.
2. Parents know what is best for their children. In certain situations, children are not wise enough to choose and the parents’ decision should be the best for them. Parents are in control and not the children (10 years and below) when it comes to decision-making.
3. Learn self-control. Children, as little as one, are able to learn self-control.
4. The world does not revolve around you, my children. During a vacation, it is about meeting the needs of the whole family, not just the children.
5. Junior doesn’t need excessive things or variety. If we let them have an excessive lifestyle in their everyday life, that behavior is bound to happen during vacation.
6. Children desire our attention and want to connect with us. If we have not spent time with our children on a daily basis, how can we expect our children to connect with us during vacation?
7. Children need boundaries and discipline when they are young.
For the past few years I’ve seen a disturbing trend in Asia, particularly Malaysia, Singapore and Hong Kong where most children are placed in the care of nannies, grandparents or house help from Indonesia, Philippines or Vietnam. Mom and Dad leave for work early in the morning and come home late at night or just enjoy the pleasures of life through their accumulated wealth.
I’ve seen it first hand, a lack of connection between children and parents. There is really no difference between everyday living and vacationing when it comes to parenting. We are their role models. More on this next time…
With that said, I disagree with the article written on June 20, 2011 by Elaine Ee published by CNNgo.com Singapore. This is not a criticism on the writer or publication. It is just a difference in opinion. I encourage parents to travel with children regardless of their age. They are only young once… happy traveling! Please leave your comment below.
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